Do Sigma Males really exist? Check out this example of Sigma behavior on NBC’S Today Show. Liz Soden was paralyzed after a traffic accident, her disability became extremely limiting on a camping trip, even though the family had rented a “handicap cabin.” Liz described the frustration of being left behind as the family ran for a closer look at a herd of elk:
I tried to follow but my chair got stuck and I started crying, I have never felt to helpless and left out in my whole life. My husband and kids returned and helped me so I was no longer stuck but at the moment my wonderful husband promised me he would make me something so that I would never have to worry about getting stuck again.
After investing a lot of time, effort, and money, Soden created the “Tankchair,” an off-road wheelchair with tracks that can handle any terrain. Later, he added the Speedster, a “fast, agile and sporty daily driver."
“Are you amazed at what you were able to create?” asked interviewer Matt Lauer.
Without a second thought, Soden shifted attention from himself to what matters most to him: “When you [my wife] her to cry, I’m motivated; I’ll make it happen.
Says his wife:
The best part about the Tankchairs and Speedsters is that I am no longer invisible. Before people would not look at me because they thought it was rude to stare at someone in a wheelchair, now I feel like a prom queen. Words can not begin to describe the feeling I get when I am in one of these chairs, the freedom and independence is truly remarkable. I don’t know where I would be right now if I did not have my wonderful husband by my side.
Kudos to Brad Soden for demonstrating how proactive protection — not just passive sympathy — makes a real difference in a relationship. His example of masculine sensitivity is what being a Sigma Male is all about.
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Dr. John Alexander is an expert on marriage relationships and the author of The Sigma Male: What Women Really Want. To learn more about the Sigma Roles in marriage, visit his website, subscribe to his blog, “like” his page on Facebook, and follow him on Twitter.
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