George S. Pransky's book, The Relationship Handbook: A simple guide to satisfying relationships (ISBN 0971198802), is a lesser-known, self-published book that contains a number of strong insights into building a strong marriage. This book is worth reviewing as a supplement to my book, Dragonslayer, while working to overcome the disease of Gender Role Reversal.
Previous chapters: 1-A Fresh Start
Chapter 2: Compatibility
Pransky's Take
Couples who's marriage is in trouble say, "We're just too different. We're incompatible." Pransky counters by telling us that complementary and incompatible are two sides of the same coin; it incompatibility is just a matter of how we think—an indication that respect is gone.
Compatibility is tied to emotional connectedness—it comes from the heart. When we feel close to our partner, we see their differences as complimenting the partnership, like Jack Spratt and his wife: He eats no fat; she eats no lean; but between the both of them they lick the platter clean.
Negative thinking turns princes into frogs.
The Sigma Male Says
This fits perfectly with my "marriage as dance" analogy. When a man is tripping over your partner's feet, it's easy for him to say, "My wife's not compatible with my dance style."
What style would that be? Failure to lead?
A man will only have a compatible/complimentary dance partner when he learns the steps and then leads with confidence.
Next up: Communication
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