Last post I reviewed the first half of an article titled 13 Ways to be Happier. The first seven items were in line with The Sigma Male. Let's check out the rest of the list.
13 Ways to be Happier, continued
8. Let go of trying to impress other people
Whipped men worry about what their friends think, so they downplay their devotion to their wife or badmouth her to their friends. A Sigma doesn't care what his friends think. He is unashamed to demonstrate his love for his wife. Ironically, the friends of a whipped man pity him while wishing they could trade place with the Sigma.
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9. Let go of your excuses
If your relationship is not what you want it to be, what excuses are you still holding onto? Excuses are directly tied to blame—a failure to accept responsibility. A Sigma must take responsibility for the state of his relationship
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10. Let go of trying to always control
A weak man claims dominance through coercion or domineering behavior, because it is the only way he can gain it. A Sigma offers leadership and protection; therefore, dominance is granted to him, even when he doesn't seek it.
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11. Let go of the past
Focusing on the past is the focus of therapy—low mood therapy to be specific. Focusing on your problems makes negative thoughts the center of your world. I believe in focusing on the possibility of a fresh start. What will you do from today on?
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12. Let go of resisting change
Marriages don't start out unhappy; they become unhappy. They change! If things can change for the worst, they can change for the better.
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13. Let go of living life to other people's expectations
What type of relationship do you want to have? Modern men have come to believe that they must behave a certain way--if they don't, they are relics from a past era. This line of reasoning supposes that male dominance is linked to chauvinism. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Men are born Protectors. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
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At its core, this list offers sound advice, but I think it complicates a simple process. Here's my shortened list:
3 Ways to be Happier
1. Accept responsibility for your lot in life
2. Fill the Roles your were born to play (Man, Husband, Father)
3. Fill the needs of those you love (Protect, Provide, Preside)
The rest will take care of itself.
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