I regularly read and dissect popular relationships books, sharing the most relevant information and correcting misguided fallacies. In this post, I cover Chapter 14 of The Relationship Handbook.
Chapter 14: Intimacy
Pransky’s Take
Intimacy is about focus, not time or “deep discussions.
Intimacy is the feeling of closeness that comes when two people are together with nothing in particular on their minds.
Capacity for Intimacy = (Attention Span) - (Distractions)
Evaluating each other (insecurity) dampens intimacy. Busy schedules and parental responsibility need not affect the level of intimacy. If the partners focus on each other when they are together, their relationship will not lack intimacy.
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The Sigma Male Says
Pransky hits the nail on the head when he talks about insecurity and lack of focus.
If you want to build intimacy, focus on helping your spouse feel completely secure.
Period.
Next up: Commitment
Previous chapters: 1-A Fresh Start, 2-Compatibility, 3-Communication, 4-Moods, 5-Emotions, 6-Compassion, 7-Dissatisfaction, 8-Change, 9-Bringing out the Best, 10-Bringing out the Best, 11-The Source of Conflict, 12-Levels of Relationship, 13-It’s Never Too Late
George S. Pransky’s book, The Relationship Handbook: A simple guide to satisfying relationships, is a lesser-known, self-published book that contains a number of good insights into building a strong marriage. This book is worth reviewing as a supplement to my book, The Sigma Male, while working to overcome the problem of Gender Role Reversal.
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Dr. John Alexander is relationship expert and the author of The Sigma Male: What Women Really Want. To learn more about Sigma Coaching, visit his website, subscribe to his blog, “like” his page on Facebook, and follow him on Twitter.
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