An Affair Waiting to Happen: When a Man Isn't a MAN

In an article entitled Are You Headed for an Affair?, Dr. Patrice Wolters makes the following claim:

Although most people believe that the person who strays is solely responsible for the affair, both partners typically share in creating and maintaining the very common behavior patterns that can lead to infidelity.

I beg to differ. Whether a man or woman cheats, the man is always the responsible party.


When a Woman Cheats

Although statistics show that the number of women who cheat is on the rise, so too are the number of men who believe the Myth of the Modern Man: If I'm nice to my wife—do more around the house, help with the kids, am respectful—that will be enough to guarantee a strong marriage.

WRONG!

While modern women want men to treat them with respect and help around the house, they do not want to be a man! If a woman has to be stronger than her husband—has to make all the decisions, has provide for her family's needs, has to protect herself—what does she need a man for?

When a woman steps out on her husband, she is looking for a man who makes her feel like a woman!

When a Man Cheats

Name the excuse: my wife has let herself go, my wife is not interested in sex, my wife is mean, my wife doesn't appreciate all that I have to offer, etc., etc., etc. It does not matter. A man who is an ultimate Protector cannot and will not cheat, for any reason!

My question for a cheating man: Was your wife out of shape, sexually cold, angry, ungrateful, etc. while you were dating her? Why did she change after marriage? Because her husband did not continue to fulfill his role as a man: he did not adequately protect, provide, and preside in the home. When a man fulfills the three critical dominant roles—Protector, Provider, Presider—his wife will respond in all the right ways and she will never cheat!

When a man steps out on his wife, he is looking for a woman who will give him everything he wants—without the responsibilities attached to manhood.

Here's my rewrite of Dr. Wolters' statement:

Men create and maintain the very common behavior patterns that can lead to infidelity. Period!