Book Critique: For Women Only, Part 9 of 10: A Woman's Looks

Book Critique Part 9, For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men, Shaunti Feldhahn

Part 9. Men care about their wife’s appearance.

Feldhahn’s Take

This isn’t saying that all men want their wives to look like the latest supermodel. What men really want is to know that their wives are making an effort to take care of themselves (and not letting themselves go) because it matters to them (the husbands!). Husbands appreciate the efforts their wives make to maintain their attractiveness.

The Sigma Male Says

This may be true, but it’s a one-sided stereotype that needs to go away. Of course men care about their wife’s appearance. The problem is, men tell themselves that their own appearance doesn’t matter as much — or matter at all. A Sigma Male knows that even though his wife might not say it, she is much more attracted to a fit, clean man than to a fat, sloppy one.

Next up: Part 10: Saying "I Love You"

Earlier Posts: Part 1: Disrespect, Part 2: Anger, Part 3: Insecurity, Part 4: The Burden of Providing, Part 5: Sex, Part 6: What Sex Means to a Man, Part 7: Visual Stimulation, Part 8: Romance

Note: Feldhahn's book, For Couple's Only, is actually a compilation of two books: For Women Only and For Men Only. In this series, I analyze the first. The summaries of each point were pulled from this post, by Jim Burns.

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Dr. John Alexander is an expert on marriage relationships and the author of The Sigma Male: What Women Really Want. To learn more about the Sigma Roles in marriage, visit his website, subscribe to his blog, “like” his page on Facebook, and follow him on Twitter.